Why do we argue

Too many times; too many handbags. Do you enjoy it? Yes, but not always. I engage in online discussion because I want to influence debate. It also helps to hone my understanding of an issue if I bounce my ideas into the room. I don't remember changing anyone's mind. The people I usually engage with hold entrenched views. I seem to like to take on the most obdurate. I suppose I am a bit of a masochist. Has your own mind ever been changed?

My views on feminism changed as a result of engagement in the IT forum. Generally though, my tone has become more sensitive to those whose opinions are different to mine. Does the existence of the internet mean you argue more than in the past? I used to take the arguments to heart and get really upset at people. Now I am more sanguine. It is akin to passing by a car crash sometimes.

You promise yourself that this time you won't look but you can't help yourself. I do enjoy the writing bit though. It is like a social centre for the mildly deranged I think. People with wildly opposing views who have chummy moments and pet names. It's weird. Please update your payment details to keep enjoying your Irish Times subscription. Why do we argue online? Why do we do it and does anyone ever win? Fri, Jul 24, , Patrick Freyne. Home energy upgrades are now more important than ever.

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