How can i stop annoying people

Gum is also good if you're kicking the smoking habit Know what I mean? You must have seen, "Cuckoo's Nest! Audrey, you are such a sweetheart. I think you put the head on the nail when you mentioned being considerate of others! Sometimes I think the relationship between sons and mothers bears annoyance in and of itself. When my oldest son was younger, he used to purposely do things just to annoy me and was glad to confess it!

Pay backs can be so much fun as long as they are all in good fun! Sometimes it's really tempting to raise your voice and argue just to prove your point and making others in the wrong.

I know all of us are guilty of that. But of course sometimes we should keep quiet and let others win, even if they're wrong. That's the mark of the mature person. Thanks for your tips. Voted up. This is wonderful Seemingly simple guidelines, yet so often dismissed today in all generations. I have to admit I feel gum, for the most part, should be outlawed. I have actually handed interview candidates a tissue before I began and said "excuse me" as sweetly as possible.

You pretty much covered it all my friend. I truly strive to give grace to everyone. Sometimes though, people just need to learn some manners! I have a lovely friend that I love very much who annoys me. She constantly interrupts me when I talk asking any question that pops into her head.

I think sometimes that she is not really listening. Also I get annoyed when someone is on the phone with me and hangs up to answer the other caller. Being yourself is important but also knowing what is proper manners in social settings helps.

I like your suggestions to listen and to avoid negativity -- two things that are key when conversing with others. Great advice on how to NOT be annoying.. Personally, i found it to be a life lesson that takes a lifetime to perfect.. Oy vey, do I have a lot of work to do.

Such sound advice. Clancey is the cutest thing takes top prizes in doggie heaven for sure. What a neat hub. I don't like the gum chewing thing, either. Good points! Your thoughtful response to me, vocalcoach, got me thinking again. Your provocative, diplomatic yet realistic article highlights an underpinning of the biggest problem I see in the world today, that being, the inability to accept each other's differences.

We see it everyday at the top levels of leadership in this country. The most contentious argument of our days is broadcast on the news daily, our inability to compromise. I believe the points you outline here illustrate that we are our own worst enemy. I, myself, have the "annoying" propensity for being serious to a fault. My sense of humor needs an overhaul.

I am continually struck by the fact that when my friend in N. Carolina and I talk daily, we can be having a heated discussion on the wrongs as we see them in the world when she says something on point, but hilarious. When I regain my composure from uncontrolled laughter, I feel a million times better, more balanced, cleaner.

As I read the comments from each of your intelligent, lovely readers, I see many different personalities, each with something fresh to bring to the table. Thank you, vocalcoach, for making me take a good look at all the good in all our differences.

What might seem annoying initially, can be a great blessing ultimately. You truly are brilliant, vocalcoach. I love you, my friend. I have a tendency to annoy and be annoyed. Yet, no one is perfect and the gift or curse of annoyance might come natural.

I've learned to laugh it off. By the way did Santa ever bring you Johnny Depp? Probably not because I got him. Unless he was cloned ;. Audrey, this is a very useful list of annoying things that are a put off for me. Braggarts, those who interrupt and bad listeners annoy me the most. Good morning Amy! How's my favorite person on HP: Thank you so much for your comments. This hub was challenging because I wanted to get my point across without stepping on any toes.

But what is - is. I had to be truthful. While reading your comments I found myself "lifted up" because you confirmed that my hub was helpful and beyond that, even brilliant. You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.

I especially like what you've said about this hub making you take a look at yourself introspectively rather than defensively. This is exactly what I was doing as I wrote this piece. You have posted some wonderful and helpful tips here. At the moment all I can do is replay Gabby's comment in my head and think of a few others to add to it. Ducktape is a wonderful thing to have.

Now I am going to be annoying My nephew was about 2 years old and loved to chat. He was chatting non-stop in Walmart one day when my hubby and I passed by some ducktape. The hubby needed it for something and had walked right by it. As I was pointing out where it was, my nephew, without pausing his chatter for a breath, said If she could have shot flames with her eyes, I would have been one fire.

She didn't even stick around long enough for me to explain that it was my hubby that needed it for a project, not me muzzling the chatting kid. I would love to read about your double date with a monkey.

These are wonderful, realistic tips, Audrey, to help folks stop annoying others. I vote for making this hub available to every youngster, teenager and member of Congress immediately. Now I want to learn more about your double-date with a tuxedo-clad monkey. I sense an intriguing story there, m'dear.

My nephew asked me to give him and his friends a ride to the school dance. I though my nephew would die of embarrassment. Oh yes Audrey a wonderful hub and I have to agree with Sunnie in that I am usually more critical of myself than others. An engaging hub with a list of helpful and valid points! I prefer to be surrounded by proper and positive friends. Once again, a sensible hub! Ohhhhhhhhhh Gabby - You've got to come and pick me up off the floor.

I haven't laughed this much since I double dated with a monkey in a tux! True story. OMG as I read your timely advice " next time he brings a girl home, tell her about how he used to pull his diaper off in the front yard and water the shrubs!

But when I came to the part about " Tell her to take some parenting classes asap. That's where they teach you how to use duct tape on your kids without leaving any marks. You are marvelous. A natural. Why aren't you on television doing stand-up? I just realized why I like you so much. Humour is 1 on my list. All my friends are just a riot. But not one of them compare to you. I love it! You just keep on chewing and snaping that gum and while you do that, I'll hop on over to read something wonderful by you.

Dear Audrey Paula's not here this evening. She's out annoying her friends. The woman is a pro! I know it's annoying to read the emails of others, but I don't adhere to that damned political correctness. You are in luck. Not everyone gets unsolicited advice from the famous Gabby Van Gibberish!

As for your son A Mom has a right to brag about her perfect son. Tell you what, next time he brings a girl home, tell her about how he used to pull his diaper off in the front yard and water the shrubs! See how he likes that! Darn kids! And about that Mom who gets so tired of screaming kids, she goes crazy! She was crazy a long time ago, or she never would have had any noisy, brats! Tell her to take some parenting classes asap.

BTW, I chew gum and snap it all the time. Most people are glad I do. At least when I'm chewing, I'm not talking! Have a nice day, dearie. Oh, Angela! I love, love, love your prayer. I'm still laughing so hard my tummy hurts: From now on, this is my daily prayer as well. You're a clever gal and I'm hopping over to see what else you have to say by reading one of your hubs. I sure know what annoys me about other people. This fantastic realistic article made me think about my own annoying habits.

Thank you, vocalcoach, for broaching a touchy subject objectively and realistically to make me take a look at myself introspectively rather than defensively. Brilliantly done. I just never thought about it like this. Makes me feel better. This is one reason I like the comments section on hubpages. We can learn even more than we bargain for - like I have from you. A big thanks!

Bumpsysmum - Thanks for your comments. They add a nice touch to my hub. I'll come by and visit a hub or 2 of yours. Good morning Sunnie - I enjoyed your comments very much. And yes, it's all fair game. Your children sound delightful. We can always count on them to "tell it like it is" : I love it. Blessings to you dear Sunnie. Bill - I have also dropped "friends" with the "all about me syndrome. Like you, I have a close circle of friends that I wouldn't trade for a sack of gold.

And my hubpage friends mean the world to me - you head the list. Hugs to you and Bev. Excellent tips -- my daily prayer is: "Lord, on this beautiful day please put your arm around my shoulders and your hand over my big mouth. Totally enjoyable read -- well written. It wouldn't have bothered me. You meant well. You are his mother, but you know how some women react and so your son probably felt not that your comment was inappropriate necessarily, but that it would probably bother his girlfriend.

I have actually dropped friends who suffered from the "it's all about me syndrome" Life is too short to surround myself with people who don't care about me from time to time, and it is too short to be surrounded by negative people too.

Great hub my friend with some valuable lessons I tend to be more critical of myself more than others I kind of get the message what ever they are "moming" me about at the time I think it is all fare game We all have quirks and foibles but some can be annoying. It only really becomes problematic when it's repeated over and over in a short space of time. A joke is funny but the same joke every morning for 10 years would be annoying. Physical Intimacy. Attracting a Mate. Date Ideas.

Online Dating. Personality Type. Relationship Problems. Relationship Advice. Single Life. Welcome to PairedLife! The scenario above is one of many possibilities in experiencing annoyance with others. It really depends on his response. If this husband can become very curious and humble himself to ask his wife questions, he could gain a deeper understanding into exactly what it is that he is doing that annoys her.

She is feeling better too because her frustration is being addressed and validated. Reflecting on what his wife says can offer him insight into himself and his behaviors. Now is where he can decide to take action and make a change. Or, his lack of empathy will become apparent and send up a red flag. The well-being of his relationship may depend on it. President, Chantilly Mediation and Facilitation.

Probably not directly in the moment: This feedback can be disturbing or hurtful, so take some time to digest it. Get curious about what, in your own behaviors, might have led the other person to call you annoying.

No one is perfect, and the kindest people in the world can become annoying if their needs are not being met. Ask, kindly, if the person who gave you this feedback would be open to talking with you more about it.

In this case, you can choose a person whose opinion you trust. Do not focus on defending yourself! Only by understanding how the other person experiences you can you even consider taking steps to be less annoying to them. And odds are, once you focus on listening to them, they will begin to see you as less annoying — especially if you offer to make a change to your behavior and then really do it. Being self-aware is the first step to adjusting the way we interact with each other.

Be mindful of how your behavior and the things you say may be perceived by others and slow down your life so that you can think before you act. Gisela Hausmann. I am guilty of this annoying behavior.

As a born problem-solver and author of many multi-award-winning nonfiction books, I used to believe that when people told me about their problems they were looking for solutions or best advice. Hoping that I could be helpful, I listened closely to identify all aspects of the problem and then shared tips and tricks I discovered over the years.

In reality, often, people just want to vent. Showing empathy for their problems others more than the best advice. CEO, Techloris. No one wants to deal with someone who is annoying so I try to assess my behaviors as well as those of my employees with that in mind.

One of the most annoying things a person can do is talk. Instead of taking it over, participate by listening and contributing. Instead, consider what someone else is saying and ask them to elaborate on how that affected them.

Confidence is attractive, a strength, but superiority is when someone looks down on you. No one enjoys the frustration that comes along with feeling as though someone thinks less of you. Adam Cole. And whose judgment?

Is it possible that you want to have relationships and friendships with people who are a mismatch with you? Are you discounting the relationships you have with people whom you do not annoy? For example, if the annoying person starts talking too loudly at a family dinner, you may try to stay detached and focus on something else in your mind.

This will allow you to block out the person and stay calm. Try to remain positive. You should also focus on the positive when you are around the person and try not to let their mood dampen yours. Being positive and proactive, rather than angry and reactive may discourage the person from trying to annoy you or bother you.

This means maintaining eye contact with the person and nodding to show them you are not fazed by them. You should also keep your arms relaxed and by your sides. Avoid responding to the person with a passive aggressive comment or a snide remark. Stay away from the person. If you are unable to handle being around the annoying person, despite trying to remain positive, you may want to avoid being around the person. Keep your distance and look for ways to avoid spending time with the person.

Sometimes the best way to cope is to separate yourself from the person and take some time away from them. You may try to keep your distance for a set period of time so that you have some space away from the person. Maybe you skip a family get together to take a small break from hanging out with the person. Or maybe you try to choose assignments at work that do not involve the person so you can have some space away from them.

Part 3. Identify what the issue is. You may end up having to confront the annoying person and try to work together on ways to address any issues you are having with them. Before you confront the person, you should sit down and try to identify what annoys you so much about the person. You may then realize that you are annoyed by her behavior overall and how unprofessional she is acting.

Another example might be that you are annoyed with how your family member always talks about themselves and ignores the problems of others. You may realize that you are annoyed by him because he is not considerate of others. Discuss the issue with the person. If you would like to confront the person, you should do so one on one in a private, quiet area. You may ask the person if you can speak to them privately after work or call them and ask to talk to them in private.

Try to speak to them in person, if possible. For example, "I feel" or "I think. I am concerned that you are coming across as unprofessional to clients. I am concerned that you are not being as aware of others and their issues as you could be.

Come up with solutions together. You should try to work with the person to come up with possible solutions or adjustments they can make to their behavior. It may be difficult for the person to hear your feedback but they may end feeling bad about their behavior and be willing to try to adjust or change.

Get support. It may be hard for the person to hear your feedback and they may end up getting upset or angry at you when you confront them. You should be prepared for the conversation to get a little heated. You may want to reach out to a superior at work, such as a Human Resources representative, a close friend or another family member, and ask them to support you if the conversation gets too intense. Make sure you do not gossip or trash talk to person with people in their workspace, their friend group or in your family, as this could just make the problem worse.

Instead, try to talk about them respectfully with others and solicit advice on how to best handle the situation. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.

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